Dating a man in the army
3) If you are someone who needs to live close to your family, do not date or marry someone in the military. Do not anticipate that you will get them to leave it and do something else.You will move a lot, potentially in far flung places around the world. 5) If you have a very defined career path that requires a specific location & number of years spent in one place a military partnership will make that very difficult. If you want a big career that demands you live in a particular area, or long years in one place, don't date people in the service.The training and the missions and the executions of both are so deeply engrained in our service men and women that, I swear, the marrow in their bones is altered.And it wasn’t until I started living with and had a child with a veteran of the United States Military, that I realized that while he left the military years ago, the military cannot – and will not – leave him.This is a given in the military and other professions like medical, fire and law enforcement.Make plans for how you will celebrate holidays without them and enjoy them. 4) If you are not supportive or interested in the military as a family life choice do not date or marry someone who loves their career in the military.For someone who has never served in the military, it is difficult to fully comprehend all the complicated ways military service weaves into the very fiber of one’s being.
I’ve learned that when my partner grows quiet and reserved and spends time on the phone, shaking his head and sighing, it’s because another former shipmate has died – due to drugs or alcohol or suicide – all because our government and our society and the very people who like to publicly celebrate the military a few days out of the year, neglect them. While I am in awe of the military spouse, I know myself well enough to know that I would have a significantly difficult time going about my day-to-day, when my partner and best friend is at war and in danger or deployed or involved in a risky training exercise.If I met an interested man who happened to be an active member of the military, that wouldn’t necessarily exclude him from consideration, but I would be hesitant to get involved on any sort of serious level. He served in the United States Navy for six years but had been out of the military for a significant amount of time before I sat next to him in on what would be our last first date.Make a different choice or find a way to become more independent.2) If you do not want to spend prom, birthdays, wedding anniversaries, babies births and holidays without your significant other or future spouse do not date someone in the military.